It’s said like an insult… “You’ve changed!”
Perhaps you were in a conversation with a lifelong friend or a family member. Something you did or said wasn’t quite what you always used to do or say. And then out it comes, with a hint of disgust… “You’ve changed!”
Here’s the problem: if you want to reach your potential in life or leadership you have to change.
Those jibes might be subtle or even well meaning. Yet they still reinforce a fundamental mindset that in order to be “true”, “authentic” or “fair dinkum” (for the Aussies!) we should always be how we’ve always been.
The opposite phrase is just as much of a problem. Why is it generally considered a compliment when we say to someone, “You haven’t changed a bit”?
If you haven’t seen me in ten years and you say to me, “You haven’t changed a bit” that might just be the lowest insult of all.
The inability or unwillingness to change is the path to extinction. If your clothes, your business strategy, your cell phone or your website are still “staying true” to how the world was ten years ago, prepare for extinction.
Let’s reverse the trend. This week find three people who’ve changed for the better and compliment them by saying “You’ve changed!”
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Paul Andrew is Founder of The Leadership Coach™